Michael Simms, from Australia, is the father of a vaccine injured son;
and a passionate vaccine risk awareness advocate.
Thank you Michael for this powerful message.
"Autism is easy", a comment that I have heard recently... Easy?? Really??
by Michael Simms
Tell me what is easy about not being able to communicate with your child? Waiting for him to say a few words so you can hear his voice, waiting for him to be able to have a conversation with you. It is all a waiting game, the longest game I have EVER played.
Tell me what is easy about your ten year old being so stressed they cry and cry for hours? He works himself into such a tizzy that you cannot touch him or cuddle him, when you know that is exactly what he needs.
Tell me what is easy about watching your child lash out because you don't understand what they want or need?
Tell me what is easy about seeing your child bang things on their head or the walls, out of pure and utter frustration, and you still cannot figure out why?
Tell me what is easy about seeing your child being isolated because they have a neurological condition? Being labelled the "bold child" because they have a meltdown in public. Or being labelled "weird" because they flap their hands and hum when they are excited.
Tell me what is easy about not knowing what the future will bring? Waking up in the morning you do not know what is facing you, and the fear of looking to the future eats you up inside, so you block it out instead.
Tell me what is easy about the loneliness of being a parent to a child with autism? "Friends" walk away, people stare at you, the judgers, the comments people pass. People pull their children away from him in playgrounds because he is "different" and god forbid they might "catch it".
Tell me what is easy about the constant worry you have. The fear of leaving them out of your sight because they cannot tell you if something happens. The worry when they cannot tell you if they feel sick or hurt them self. The heartbreak you feel on a daily basis because their life is not meant to be this hard.
There is NOTHING easy about Autism.
There is nothing great, nothing rosy in the garden.
It is hard, and it does not matter if you are in your twenties or in your forties, it is HARD.
It is the biggest challenge I have come across in my life, and there are some days where you just want to lock yourself in a room and hide. There are some days where someone just has to look at me and I cry. There are some days where you can take on the world and other days where you want to hide from every other human being.
This does not mean that I love my little boy any less, I worship the ground he walks on.
It does not mean that I don't have goals and dreams for him, because I do. I have the biggest dreams in the world for him, and I will help him to achieve everything he wants to do.
It does not mean that my little boy is “weird" or "bold" he is simply wired differently.
He is AMAZING, but everyday life is harder for him.
So yes, looking from the outside Autism might look "easy", but before you make a quick judgement, before you decide you could do our job with your eyes closed, and before you question why sometimes we cry at the blink of a hat, put yourself in our shoes for the day. Put yourself in the shoes of a parent to a child with Autism, and come back to me. Come back to me and tell me how it really is.
The Truth with Myk Simms
Also read Just Asking...by Michael Simms